NLP coaching tip - Fearless by Paul Lemberg.

"Fear is the mind killer."
Frank Herbert, Dune

The only fear that matters is your fear of failure.

All other fears are ultimately revealed as variants of this one. Fear of failure is the number one killer of rapid growth. Sometimes, any growth at all.

If you are afraid your venture is going to fail, you will hesitate to risk all that must be risked for its success. At some point you weigh the rewards and the costs – the rewards seem too distant and the costs too great. So you stop.

The antidote is fearlessness.

Not being afraid... A tall order and very difficult to manage, since fear is such a basic part of the human condition. How can you manage fearlessness?

You need to know, with certainty, your venture may fail. Irrespective of your faith and your beliefs about success – your venture may fail. Most certainly, it will not turn out the way you planned. Most certainly, it will not turn out the way you think it should.

Yet, because it is so important to you, because its impact is so fraught with possibility, you are willing to risk everything, do everything there is to do to make it happen anyway.


If you can master this paradox, knowing you will fail and going forward anyway – you have transformed your fear of failure into certainty about failure, and you don’t give a damn.

When you know you might fail, and you courageously, faithfully go forth, that is being fearless.

 Say the following:

I know this venture may fail. No matter who I am, what I risk and what I do, this venture may fail.


Knowing what you now know, are you willing to continue? Are you willing to “do whatever it takes” to realize your vision?

If so, my friend, you have become fearless.


 

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